Your heart isn’t broken- it’s working

I know you’ve been saying it a lot lately—“my heart is broken.” And honestly, I get it. When someone you love and trust betrays you, it feels like your whole world collapses. But can I offer you another way to look at it? What if your heart isn’t broken at all? What if, instead, your heart is actually working exactly the way it’s supposed to?

Your Heart Isn’t Broken. It’s Working.

Think about it: you’re feeling so much right now—love, anger, sadness, gratitude, confusion, loneliness. That’s not a sign of a heart that’s broken. That’s a sign of a heart that’s alive and fighting for you. You’re feeling all these things because your heart is doing its job. It’s protecting you, it’s grieving what you lost, it’s searching for meaning, and it’s even reminding you of the good that still exists, even if it’s hard to see right now.

I know it’s tempting to want to shut down, to numb out, or to just “get over it” as fast as possible. But honestly? The only way through this is to let your heart do its work. That means letting yourself feel all of it—the rage, the sadness, the confusion, the moments of hope, and even the flashes of gratitude for the people who have shown up for you. Every single emotion is a sign that you care deeply and that your heart is fighting to heal, not giving up.

You don’t have to rush this. There’s no timeline for how long it “should” take to feel better. Some days you’ll feel strong, and other days you’ll feel like you’re back at square one. Both are okay. Healing isn’t linear, and your heart knows what it’s doing, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

Let yourself cry. Let yourself scream into a pillow if you need to. Let yourself laugh when something genuinely makes you happy. Let yourself feel lonely, and then reach out to someone who gets it. You’re not broken for feeling all of this—you’re human. And honestly, you’re braver than you think for facing it head-on

I know it can feel like nobody really gets it, but you’re not alone. So many of us have been where you are, and we’re rooting for you. Don’t be afraid to talk about it, to ask for help, or to just sit in silence with someone who cares. You don’t have to go through this by yourself, even if it feels that way sometimes.

For My Friends Who Lean on Their Faith

If you’re someone who leans on your faith, I want you to know that God isn’t far away from you in this. Even if you’re angry or confused, or you don’t even know what to say to Him right now, He’s not going anywhere. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” He’s not scared off by your pain—He’s right there with you, holding you together when you feel like you’re falling apart.

It’s okay to bring all your messy, complicated feelings to God. He can handle your anger, your questions, and your tears. He’s not asking you to pretend everything’s fine. In fact, He wants your honesty. And even though it might not make sense right now, He promises to work even this for your good (Romans 8:28). You don’t have to have it all figured out. Just let yourself be held, and trust that God is gently mending your heart, piece by piece.

You’re not broken. You’re beloved. And your heart is doing its job—even now. I’m here for you, cheering you on, and so is God.