
Betrayal Trauma Journal Prompts
What You Can Expect
This is a collection of thoughtfully made journal prompts to support spouses who have been impacted by infidelity, offering a comprehensive collection of journal prompts that address the many facets of betrayal and its aftermath.
By engaging with these prompts, you can expect to gain deeper insight into your emotions, process the trauma of infidelity, and begin to rebuild trust in yourself and your future.
These journal prompts cover a broad spectrum of pain points—from the initial shock and grief, to navigating difficult conversations, managing triggers, and fostering self-compassion. Ultimately, you will be guided toward greater clarity, emotional resilience, and a renewed sense of hope as you move forward on your healing journey.
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Journal Prompts
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Pre- Disclosure
Preparing for a full therapeutic disclosure is an emotionally intense and vulnerable experience. As you approach this important step, it’s natural to feel a mix of anxiety, hope, fear, and uncertainty. These journal prompts, created from a CSAT perspective, are designed to help you identify your needs, clarify your boundaries, and build your internal resources before the disclosure.
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Post- Disclosure
After a full therapeutic disclosure of infidelity, many betrayed spouses experience a whirlwind of emotions—shock, grief, anger, confusion, and profound loss. This is a critical time for self-care, reflection, and processing the reality of what has happened. As a CSAT, I have designed these journal prompts to help you navigate the aftermath of disclosure, honor your feelings, and begin to make sense of your experience.
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Anger
Processing anger after betrayal or trauma is a complex journey. It involves recognizing the sources and physical sensations of anger, understanding its deeper messages, and exploring how it interacts with other emotions, such as sadness or fear. Many people wrestle with early lessons about anger, guilt or shame around expressing it, and the impact it has on relationships.
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Disbelief
If you’ve recently discovered your spouse’s infidelity, you may be struggling with disbelief, shock, and confusion. These are normal and deeply painful reactions for betrayed partners.
These journal prompts guide you to reflect on your initial reactions, the ways disbelief may be protecting you, and the conflicting emotions that arise as you try to reconcile your past with your present.
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He won't change
These guided journal prompts are created for spouses who are trying to heal from infidelity and betrayal—even when their partner refuses to take responsibility or do the work. Whether you're exploring these prompts through a trauma-informed lens or a Christ-centered worldview, each question is designed to help you process the pain, reconnect with your true self, and begin rebuilding trust—not in your partner, but in yourself and your future.
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Should I stay or should I go?
This journaling exercise offers compassionate guidance for those navigating the devastating impact of infidelity. Through structured prompts, you'll explore what you might gain, lose, or reclaim by choosing to stay or to leave. Designed to bring clarity and connection to your inner truth, this tool supports your healing—whatever path you choose.
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Feelings of Inadequacy & Attractiveness
This reflective journey invites participants to gently explore the roots of their feelings about attractiveness and self-worth, recognizing how appearance-related insecurities can quietly shape our identities.
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Reclaiming Worth & Identity
This guided journal series is designed for spouses who have experienced the deep pain of betrayal and are now wrestling with feelings of inadequacy, damaged self-image, and painful comparisons to the affair partner.
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Vision for what the future looks like
These guided journal prompts invites you to reflect deeply on your past, present, and future as you navigate the pain of betrayal. Through compassionate and honest prompts, you'll explore what you’ve shared with your spouse, what’s been lost, and what may still be possible. These questions are designed to help you process your emotions, gain clarity, and gently consider the path ahead—whether that means rebuilding together or moving forward separately.
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Meet the Writer
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Meet the Writer ✳
Tesa Saulmon LMHC CSAT
Hello, I'm Tesa! I am deeply honored to be part of your journey toward healing. I am a psychotherapist who specializes in infidelity, betrayal, and addictions. I hope these journal prompts are a resource for you on the days you aren't doing therapy, or need alitlle for time for processing.