You have been trying to figure it all out for a long time.
Are you ready to put down the Weight of Overthinking, Overfixing, and Overcarrying?
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Does this sound like you?
You were the dependable one before you were old enough to choose it. Somewhere around age nine, you became a second parent, and you have not really clocked out since.
You apologize for things that are not your fault, including the weather and other people's moods. If someone in the room is upset, your body assumes it is your job to fix it.
You cannot rest until everyone is fed, texted back, scheduled, and okay. Even then, you lie in bed doing a mental headcount of who might need you tomorrow.
You are the one everyone leans on, and you have quietly forgotten what it feels like to lean. Asking for help feels like admitting you failed at holding it all.
You rehearse conversations that may never happen and brace for problems that have not arrived, because if you can just think it through hard enough, maybe nothing will catch you off guard again.
If you read that and felt a little exposed, you are exactly who this study is for.
What This
Book Study Is
For six weeks, a small group of women will read Lysa TerKeurst's Making Peace with What I Can't Control together and do the honest work of loosening the grip on what was never ours to hold. This is not a lecture. It is not homework you fall behind on and quietly quit. It is a guided space where you read, reflect, and gather with women who understand the exhaustion without you having to explain it.
Peace does not respond well to a stopwatch. Each week you will read a portion of the book on your own, then come together with the group to talk about what surfaced, where it landed, and what Scripture has to say to the part of you that is still afraid to let go.
Psalm 46 says God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Present. Not a God who waits for you to get it together first. That is the ground we stand on for these six weeks.
Six weeks of guided group study built and facilitated by Rebecca Maxwell, Licensed Christian Psychotherapist & Ordained Minister + Tesa Saulmon, Licensed Christian Psychotherapist, Betrayed Spouse Specialist, & CSAT
What's inside?
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A small, protected circle where you can come as you are, in a judgment-free zone with other like-minded women.
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Reflection Guide, with journal prompts.
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Trauma-informed reflection that honors your pace and never rushes your healing.
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Faith woven through every week, grounded in Scripture, with no spiritual bypassing and no pretending, pain is not there.
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$197
Rebecca Maxwell
For a long time, I believed the answer was simply to do more. To work harder. To prepare better. To stay up later. To be the one who could hold everything together.
So I did. I earned the degrees, became ordained, built a counseling practice, and tried to faithfully show up as a wife, mom, daughter, friend, and volunteer. If something needed to be done, I wanted to be the person others could count on.
But over time, I realized there was a cost to always being the one who carried everything. The more I tried to control, the heavier life became. Peace wasn't waiting for me once I accomplished enough or managed everything well enough.
Peace came when I began surrendering what was never mine to carry in the first place.
That's the journey I now have the privilege of walking with women every day. So many of us aren't controlling because we want power. We're controlling because we're afraid. We are afraid of what might happen if we let go, afraid of pain, afraid of what God might allow.
What I discovered was that control had quietly become my substitute for trust. Yet God had never asked me to carry the weight of everyone and everything. He was inviting me to trust Him with what only He could hold.
The beautiful thing is that you don't have to have it all figured out before you begin. You don't have to be a theologian, a therapist, or someone who finally has life under control. You simply have to be willing to loosen your grip and trust the God who has always been faithful to hold what you place in His hands.
wife, mom, daughter, psychotherapist, ordained minister & overachiever
Tesa Saulmon
I learned early to read a room before I stepped into it, to keep the peace, and to hold things together so they would not come apart on my watch. I was the parent in my house of a single father who was a recovering addict, and 4 brothers. That made me capable. It also made me tired in a way I could not name for years. I personally was not tired because I did it all; my soul was tired.
So I did what capable, tired women do. I achieved and over-functioned. The degrees, the practice, the reputation as the one who has it handled, all of it built on the same childhood job of managing everything so my dad wouldn't relapse, so my brother wouldn't get angry and everything would be okay.
What took me a long time to understand is that all that controlling was never strength. It was fear I had gotten very good at hiding.
The women I sit with now are carrying the same weight in different ways I did, and helping them set it down has finally taught me to set down my own. God was never asking me to hold it all. I just could not hear that over the noise of trying.
wife, mom, daughter, psychotherapist, over-functioner & over-achiever
A Few Questions Women Have Asked
Still have questions? Check out the FAQ or reach out anytime. If you’re feeling ready, go ahead and register.
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Then you are in good company. There is no experience required and no wrong way to show up. Come as you are and let the group carry you the rest of the way.
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Life happens, and grace covers it. The gatherings are designed so you can still show up and get something real even in a week when the reading did not.
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This is a safe space, not a hot seat. We do highly encourage participation and conversation. We know vulnerability is not easy, and we also want you to take this time and space for YOU! We pray this will be a rich experience.
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We have two meeting times. This is offered on a first-come, first-served basis.
We will start the week of September 28th!
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Unfortunately, we do not at this time.
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You Do Not Have to Hold It All Anymore
For six weeks, you will have a place to bring the weight, women who understand it, and a God who has been waiting to help you carry it.
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